Roseanne Cash on Trusting Your Process
I am so in love with the Creative Independent site. I find inspiration every time I visit.
I’m more willing to trust whatever that process is now. I had to learn that it’s OK not knowing in the beginning exactly what you are writing. In the past I would get frustrated and feel like I was beating on a door that wouldn’t open, but now I’m more like, “Well, let’s see where this goes.” It may take weeks before I understand what a piece is trying to be. For example, I’ve been writing the lyrics to a musical for the last four years, as well as writing the songs for this new record, which is why it took five years to get the record done.
The Mistake I Made with My Grieving Friend (Huffington Post)
Don’t make the same mistake. Hint: it’s not about you.
Claudia Day, Mothers as Makers of Death (Paris Review)
Ugh… gut punch.
When I became a mom, no one ever said, ‘Hey, you made a death. You made your children’s deaths.’ Meanwhile, I could think of little else.
Mary Pipher: The Joy of Being a Woman in Her 70s (NYT)
I’m in no hurry to be 70—47 is pretty awesome—but I’m also excited.
By our 70s, we’ve had decades to develop resilience. Many of us have learned that happiness is a skill and a choice. We don’t need to look at our horoscopes to know how our day will go. We know how to create a good day.
Conan O’Brien: Nothing Matters and We’re All Going to Die (Vice)
Is it weird that I found his comments comforting? I did.
Pooja Lakshmin, We Don’t Need Self-Care; We Need Boundaries (Op-Med)
I posted this link to my writing/speaking/coaching page, but it bears repeating:
[The] “faux self-care” that we are being offered is not actually feeding us. If feeling confident and empowered were as easy as spa days and meal delivery service, life would be much easier! Self-care is the internal hard work of making tough decisions for yourself and by yourself. It starts with recognizing that you have limits, and you really do have to choose what you prioritize because just like everyone else, you are human. It’s actually not that pleasant of a process, because it means you have to set boundaries.
Goerge Monbiot, The Fear that Lies Behind Aggressive Masculinity (Guardian)
On Gillette, and more:
The age-old mistake, which has stunted countless lives, is the assumption that because physical hardship in childhood makes you physically tough, emotional hardship must make you emotionally tough. It does the opposite. It implants a vulnerability that can require a lifetime of love and therapy to repair and that, untreated, leads to an escalating series of destructive behaviours. Emotionally damaged men all too often rip apart their own lives, and those of their partners and children.
Debra Dean Murphy, Why We Need Mary Oliver’s Poems (Christian Century)
Do we ever.
And a bonus link, in which my friend and colleague Renee Roederer does a mashup of Richard Rohr and MAMD. What an honor!
What has inspired you lately?