Friday Link Love

Happy Tax Day But Not Really! Just a couple of links today...

Why Parents Should Just Relax and Bond with Their Kids

[The researcher] cites adoption and twin research done over the last forty years that shows that of the major outcomes that parents try to influence — health, intelligence, happiness, success, character, values, appreciation — just about all of them in the long run have more to do with nature than nurture. In other words, it's really hard to change your kids, especially what kinds of adults they'll be.

What does last, however, is "appreciation" — the way kids see and remember their parents (or, perhaps... how accurately they remember you).

May I suggest that taking intentional Sabbath time together as an excellent mechanism for this?

How Genius Works

True confession time, Atlantic articles are humongous so I haven't read this piece yet. But I'm intrigued by the people they talked to, everyone from Chuck Close to the director of Kung Fu Panda II.

What Lucky People Do Differently Than Unlucky People

What makes a person lucky? Often it's less about actual luck than it is about a person's general outlook.


People who we often consider lucky are more relaxed and open to what's going on around them. They're not focused on a single task, blocking out everything else so much that they miss something important and unexpected. What this experiment demonstrates is that luck may not so much be luck, but whether or not our mindset leaves us open to opportunities we would otherwise miss because we're so absolutely sure of what we want.

I wonder if they've correlated this sense of "luck" with Myers-Briggs types. It seems like folks who are strong P's would have more of a lucky temperament by this definition, as opposed to J's who are more goal-oriented. (Bummer for me.)

The '10 Writing Mistakes' List

Pretty decent list, with a bit of snark to boot.

Survival Skills from the World's Oldest Man

The world's oldest man (according to Guinness) just died, but here are some of his words of wisdom. Good stuff:

A lot of people think they’re born for themselves; I don’t think that. I believe that we’re here to help other people all the way through.

And a final link, just for fun:

Business Card Stamp

Dave Hakkins made a stamp the same size as a normal business card so that he could stamp it on ANYTHING. He cuts out card size rectangles of paper, cloth, cereal boxes and then just stamps them: each one is a surprise. By this method, he’s managed to address what he likes and doesn’t about the classic business card.

I love this idea. I have a need for business cards maybe twice a year, and it's fun to think about repurposing stuff from around here: old permission slips, kids' artwork...