I was talking with a friend recently about a setback in her running. By the time it's all said and done, she will be sidelined for half a year, unable to run at all, and the thought of having to start over is really bumming her out. I could relate, having been through my own time of injury and rebuilding from scratch. And maybe we can all relate, whether we run or not. Pretty much everyone knows what it's like to have plans derailed, to have to start over, or to find ourselves on a completely different path than the one we'd hoped to travel. I've been reading Sheryl Sandberg's Option B, about coming to terms with the unexpected death of her husband. The book is full of wisdom for life's adversities, however large or small. It also covers similar ground to my book on improv as a life practice, so it's a good one to tide you over until mine comes out next year! (And if anyone knows Sandberg and could put me in touch with her, I'd love to give her an advance copy.)
I read recently about Willie Stewart, a young, talented rugby player until a horrific construction accident caused him to lose his left arm. For some two years, he laid about, devastated at the loss of the life he’d known, the life that would never be his. (Who could blame him?)
Eventually he found his way back into sports, this time setting his sights on triathlon. He learned to swim and bike with just one arm. This was in the 1980s, when there wasn't as much support and encouragement for athletes with disabilities. He was determined to compete in the Ironman World Championship in Hawaii.
Finally in 2002, Stewart found himself in the front row of swimmers, determined to match his strength, endurance and focus against the most able-bodied athletes. He finished in the top third of competitors, and went on to have a fruitful career with many other honors and accolades, inspiring others.
Occasionally, a fan or friend will say to Stewart, “Imagine what you could have done if you hadn’t lost your arm!” Imagine, indeed.
And his answer is always the same: “I wouldn’t have done any of it.”
To come to terms with life as it is, rather than life as we thought it might be, is a holy struggle and a lifelong pursuit. May we find the courage not only to survive, but to thrive.
Peace, Joy, and Yes. MaryAnn
Note: Willie Stewart's story comes from the book How Bad Do You Want It? by Matt Fitzgerald.
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